When did I fall in love… with love?

I remember my first onscreen love affair. Donna and David, 90210, circa 1990. I know I was only 7 or 8 years old, but as I watched them slowly fall in love an obsession was born. An obsession of the epic chemistry between two actors, the brilliant writing and direction of a love story, the slow build up, the will they won’t they, the perfect kiss, and of course the perfect execution of the perfect line.

“When was it that we fell in love, when we were 18 or 16, maybe 10? I don’t know ’cause the truth is I can’t picture a time that I wasn’t in love with you. I always knew you were the one that could look into my eyes and see my soul.”

This began my life long love of LOVE! Adding to the list year after year. New characters continue to join the likes of Pacey and Joey, Seth and Summer, Veronica and Logan, Nick and Jess, Kurt and Blaine, Chuck and Blair, and the more controversial Rory and Jess, Elena and Damon, Buffy and Spike (yes)…. to name a few. The epic love… the onscreen moments that you can’t help but rewind and re-watch a dozen times. I love most and have quite an extensive list of favorites but this year a new love rose quickly to the top of my list. Mickey and Ian.

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The chemistry between Cameron Monaghan and Noel Fisher is beyond compare. I’ll admit.. it came as a shock because I only started watching Shameless for Justin Chatwin but instead of falling for the love between him and Emmy Rossum it was the moments between Mickey and Ian I found myself unable to watch just once. If you know me you know I die for epic chemistry. And theirs… absolutely brilliant. Normally I try and contain my epic love of love (although this blog may get the worst of it) but this one I just couldn’t keep in. Do yourselves a favor.. binge Shameless. See what I’m talking about.

You’re welcome.

When did free time disappear?

I used to blog all the time. Not very well, I’m sure, but throughout my twenties I became an avid and somewhat obsessive blogger. It was mostly to satisfy my love and obsession of celeb gossip. I needed somewhere to spit out all the information I was reading. And when it became apparent the people in my life were done with hearing about who Zac Efron was currently dating, or what new young starlet was rumored to be starring in the next YA book to movie series, I turned to blogging.

Then I hit my thirties and it was like all my free time that I used to spend blogging just disappeared. I really don’t know where it went.  It’s not like I had kids, started planning a big wedding, decided to travel the world, or changed careers. No, the time just disappeared. Three years I’ve spent searching for that spare time so I could start blogging again. And don’t think I’ve suddenly found that missing time. No, I’m just here, nearing my mid thirties, making a serious (slight) effort to carve time out of my “busy” day to force myself to start blogging again.

Why? You might (or more likely might not) want to know. Well, it seems I never stopped. While I may have taken a hiatus from online blogging, I’ve continued to blog in my head. Non stop. And now I just have years worth of content floating around up there taking up much needed space. So this is me. Getting it out.

You’re welcome.

When did CaKe become something other than a delicious dessert?

Now I’m all for a good celeb squad. When celebrities hang out in squad formation it just saves me time. I no longer have to check multiple social media accounts when they’re all just reposting the same pics of their 4th of July in the Hamptons (ahem Taylor Swift). But when Cara Delevingne and Kendall Jenner stepped out in their matching CaKe shirts, celeb squad quickly became a marketing tool, a branding goldmine. Everyone wanted in on the squad. And with a T-Shirt that could have easily sold for $40+ anyone could join. Everyone wants to rep their sports team gear, and with celeb feuds on the rise, why not show your support for who’s side you take in the Taylor/Kimye battle. Kendall and Cara have denied that they are launching a brand, but that doesn’t mean it won’t happen or that other celebs won’t cash in. As someone who doesn’t ever “represent” in any way or fashion a sports team. (Boo sports) I’ll be more than pleased to wear my CaKe shirt on Superbowl Sunday. Who’s with me!?cake

When did being 30(ish) and single become something to apologize for?


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Don’t apologize because I’m single.

(Read below for a rant)

I was out last night for a bachelorette party and was frequently asked “are you engaged or dating anyone?” I’m not so I’d reply “no, I’m single.” Every single person apologized. Seriously. Some then asked me if I’d tried online dating. One girl, upon hearing me answer “I’m single” gave me a long hug while scolding the person who asked me the question. As I sit here in the late afternoon scrolling through pictures of the fun night and willing myself to get out of bed I’m still feeling baffled by the responses.

Is being 30ish and single really something to apologize for? Should I be more concerned that I’m single? Should I be concerned that I’m not concerned about finding a husband?

Maybe since I don’t want children I don’t hear that ticking clock or feel the need to walk around with a neon “husband wanted” sign flashing above my head.

Maybe the men in my life set my standards too high.

Maybe having sisters unashamed of living “out of the box” is inspiring.

Maybe growing up surrounded by strong women influenced me more than I know.

Maybe having incredible friends who never let who they were with define who they are taught me valuable lessons.

Maybe I’m lucky to have been raised by parents who placed importance on independence and confidence.

Maybe others aren’t as concerned with the responses to “I’m single” as I am.

I hope they are. I for one won’t be apologizing to the single people out there. The status of your relationship isn’t something to pity. It’s just something you post on Facebook.

#idontknow